Becoming a grandparent can be one of the most exciting moments in your life. To be an amazing grandma, make sure you’re well prepared for this new role. Offer the right sort of help to new parents, such as a home-cooked meal or taking care of laundry.

Be discreet and allow the new parents to get to know their baby and some alone time. Then, accept that you have no control and accept the parents’ rules.

So, don’t buy excessive gifts, give unwanted advice, or spoil your grandchildren too much. Remember that the backbone of being a good grandma is respect—for the parents’ wishes, your grandchild’s well-being, and your own time and needs.